- Happen to anyone, of any race, sex, age, sexual orientation, or religion.


* Abuse is about Power and Control


- Victims of Domestic Violence in the LGBTQ communities often experience abuse in ways that are specific and unique to these communities.


Everyone has the right to live life free of abuse!

How to help a loved one......


- Approach the other person at a time and place that is safe and confidential

- Start by expressing your concern ("I am concerned that someone is hurting you, and I'm worried about you")

- Take the time to listen and believe what your loved one tells you.  This may be the one and only time they try to confide in someone

- Communicate that you care about your loved one's safety, that they do not deserve the abuse and most importantly the abuse is NOT their fault

- Tell your loved one they are not crazy.  A person who has been abused often feels upset, depressed, confused and scared.  Let them know these feelings are normal

- Tell them some good things about them to try and help with self-esteem

- Respect the victim's decisions

- Encourage them to build a support system for themselves by talking to family and friends

- Be patient, self - empowerment may take longer than you would like.  Go at the victim's rate, not yours.

- Consider calling your local organization, not on behalf of your friend or loved one but for you to learn more about ways you  can help and be supportive. 


**  Always remember to safety plan, safety planning saves lives!!!!


How it affects our children.....


- More than 3 million children witness domestic violence in their homes every year

- Children who live in homes where there is domestic violence also suffer abuse or neglect at high rates (30% to 60%)

- Children exposed to domestic violence at home are more likely to have health problems, including becoming sick often, having frequent headaches, or stomach aches & being more tired and lethargic

- Children are more likely to intervene when they witness severe violence against a parent - which can place a child at great risk for injury or even death


Is This Abuse?.........

If you answered yes to one or more of those questions, you may be in an abusive relationship. Please don't hesitate to reach out to your local organization or by calling The National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233

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STATISTICS ABOUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

Does Your Partner..........


- Put you down?

- Control what you do, who you talk to, or where you go?

- Scare you?

- Push you, slap you, choke you, or hit you in anyway?

- Stop you from seeing your family or friends?

- Control your money, make you ask for money and then denies it to you?

- Tell you you're a horrible parent, or threaten to take the children?

- Deny the abuse, or tell you its your fault?

- Destroy property?

- Threaten or hurt your pets?

- Intimidate you with guns, knives, or any other weapons?

- Attempt to force you to drop criminal charges

- Threaten suicide or threatens to kill you?

The abuse wheel shows the cycle of violence and how they work the wheel.

- 1 in 4 women will experience some form of Domestic Violence in her lifetime

- More than 60% of Domestic Violence incidents happen at home

- Women ages 18 to 34 are at the greatest risk of becoming victims of domestic violence

- More than 4 million women experience physical assault & rape by their partners

- In 2 out of every 3 female homicide cases, females are killed b a family member or a partner

- Domestic violence costs more than $37 billion a year in law enforcement involvement, legal work, medical & mental health treatment & lost productivity at companies



- #1 FACT, most domestic violence cases are never reported



HELP CHANGE THE FACTS!!  SPEAK UP, SPEAK OUT, AND HELP MAKE A DIFFERENCE FOR VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE!!!


Abuse can..........

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